Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed almost 4,200 Americans of varied ages and diverse backgrounds from all 50 states. The three most popular themes were multi-partner sex, BDSM, and novelty/adventure (trying something new).
He found that women are more likely to fantasize about a same-sex interaction, while men tend to fantasize about exhibiting characteristics of a different gender role.
Fantasies are healthy. There’s nothing wrong in your relationship if you fantasize. Work to keep the passion alive with your partner. Introduce sex as a topic and break down the communication barriers with your partner.
Listen as Dr. Lehmiller joins Dr. Pamela Peeke to talk all about sexual fantasies.
Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (2nd edition released in 2017) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.